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{May 28, 2007}   More Sex is Safer Sex

I listened to an interview in which someone from Boing Boing interviewed the author of “More Sex is Safer Sex.” Simply put, his contention is like this: The more often someone who is careful about precautions and not reckless about sex goes out and adds themselves to the casual sex pool, the higher the chance that someone out there having casual sex will be doing so safely — i.e., good “money” driving out bad “money”. Apparently the book goes on to list several other such “solutions” to more of society’s problems.

Listening to this made me fall off my chair. It wasn’t so much the “if we can get more people to get out of their houses on a Saturday evening to a bar or someplace to have sex, rather than reading a book at home, we can reduce the incidence of STDs like AIDS” angle they took, which you must admit is thinking several light years out of the box. It was more that these are the kind of things that people in secondary school would talk about (not sex per se, but) — totally logical arguments that were totally inaccurate descriptions of reality (like hamster wheels powering a small city state).

It’s good to know that people who think that way are found everywhere.

[ Link to interview ]


{May 21, 2007}   On the Selling of Dreams

“The Great Happiness Space” (2006)
Documentary, 1hr 16min
Official website:

A film by Jake Clennel about a host club in Osaka. Host clubs are clubs or bars for women to drink at and be amused by male servers, called hosts. Winner of the Best Documentary Feature Award at the Edinburgh International Film Festival 2006. Japanese with English subtitles.

[ Link to Google Video ]

It seems that most of the women who visit the club work in the sex industry as well. Something one of the hosts said during the interviews leads me to believe that some of the women do not begin as such, but start doing it to afford their visits. When I was growing up, I would often hear that in a relationship, “men trade love for sex, women trade sex for love.” This seems to ring true here in a strange fashion.

I also wonder if host clubs as a phenomenon are restricted to Japan. Where do sex workers elsewhere in the world turn to for their emotional and psychological needs? Where do rich women go when they want to buy the attention of and ogle at cute guys? I know of male strip clubs, but sex alone doesn’t satisfy women. Why isn’t human interaction available for sale then? The flippant part of me wants to say that maybe it’s because respect and emotional availability isn’t one of the things women can expect from men in Japan (see previous entry), so they have to buy it — but I guess there is no simple answer.

[ via Japan Probe ]

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